It’s shaking my confidence and making me feel (irrationally, I know!) like no one wants this type of terrible, unappealing baggage. Perimenopause has seriously diminished my libido and my interest in as frequent sex as I was interested in even just a year or so ago. But I want a new relationship, and I want to be sexually attracted to a new partner. And they’ve been with these partners for a long time, so they say that it’s normal to not have sex as frequently. When I hear from other women about perimenopause, many have supportive partners who try to help them. I’m getting good care, and I hope to try dating again. I’m in perimenopause and experiencing a lot of symptoms. It was good that it ended, but it ended in part because of a new phase of life I’ve found myself in much earlier than I anticipated. I’m single, having ended a relationship earlier this year.
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